Frequently Asked Questions – Wedding

How soon should we send out our wedding invitations?

4 months prior to the wedding date allows your guests plenty of time to RSVP.  You may want to send your invitations out prior to the 4 month mark, should you have a lot of out-of-town guests.  

How soon should we send out our save the dates?

10-12 months prior to the wedding date is plenty of time.  For destination weddings, you may want to consider sending out save the date’s earlier.

How soon should we send out our wedding invitations for a destination wedding?

6-12 months in advance of the wedding date.

How many invitations should we order?

It’s best practice to order one invitation per couple/family.  We recommend that you prepare a contact list prior to placing an order.  Exact numbers must be provided when placing an order.  Include yourself in the guest list so that you have an invitation as a keepsake.

When should we make the deadline for RSVP’s?

Assign a timeframe and deadline based on everything you booked, consider numbers for catering, and rentals.  What’s the minimum cancellation notice for the venue and rentals?  The minimum recommended deadline is 3 weeks prior to the wedding, however, that could be cutting it close for certain bookings.  Keep in mind the necessary time to make a seating chart and finalize the decorations.

How should guests RSVP?

Couples are moving in the direction of email/website RSVP options. It’s easier for most guests to reply electronically and it saves you excess postage costs.  Most couples that ask for replies via email, also offer a phone number for older guests that might not be comfortable responding online or email.  If you prefer the more traditional mail route, it’s tradition to put a stamp on the RSVP envelope for your guests.

Where should we include website information?

The wedding website should be included on the save the date.  If an RSVP section is included on the website, don’t forget to hide it until the invitations go out.

Should we provide guests with accommodation information?

If there are out-of-town guests, or the wedding takes place in a location where all or most of the guests will need to stay overnight, recommend accommodations for them.  Most hotels will set aside a block of rooms at a discounted rate, if a call is made. The best information to include is hotel name, address, reservation phone number, booking reference name or number if applicable (usually it is the couples last name), book by date and rates if you decide to include them.

Can I put the wedding stationery together?

No, all designs are copy written material of Infinity Design Company.

Should the bride or groom’s name be first on the invitation?

Generally speaking and traditionally speaking the bride’s name should be first, unless there is an unusual reason.  Ladies name first follows proper etiquette on most things.  There are no rules against putting the groom’s name first.

Is it appropriate to ask for monetary gifts or include registry information?

It is generally not proper etiquette and is considered impolite to include your registry or request monetary gifts on invitations.  Word of mouth through friends and family is the best way to inform guests.  With that said, many people still choose to include their registries in the invitation.  An alternate suggestion is to place your registry information on your wedding website.

Should we include parent’s names?

Traditionally, parent’s names should be included on your invitation if they are paying for some or all of the wedding. If parents are not helping financially, but you would still like to include them, that’s fine too. It’s ultimately your decision.   

What is the correct format for addressing the envelopes?

When creating your address list, use full names instead of abbreviations.

How do we let guests know our dress code?

The easiest way to get your point across is to include a dress code on a reception card. “Black tie,” “cocktail attire” or “casual attire” are all acceptable. Your invitation design will also clue guests in. Another way is to direct guests to your wedding website.

Do we have to invite every guest with a date or a “plus-one”?

No. If a guest isn’t married or in a serious relationship, it’s perfectly acceptable to invite them solo.  What should you do if a guest RSVP’s for two? Call them up and explain you’re having an intimate wedding and, unfortunately, you were not able to invite everyone with a guest.

We’re having an adults-only wedding (no kids). How can we make sure this is clear to our guests?

Specifically address your invitations to each guest by name.  If there are a lot of kids in your family, you may want to consider hiring or arranging for a babysitter.  Just be sure to include this information on the wedding website.